Virgin Whore Complex

From Urban Dictionary (to see more definitions click on title of this blog which links to Urban Dictionary)
Madonna-Whore Complex
The seemingly conflicting desires that some (but certainly not all) men have for a woman who is experienced in the bedroom and unashamed of showing sexual prowess ("whore"), but at the same time a woman who is wholesome, clean and nuturing ("madonna"), particularly enough to not be branded a "slut".

This concept is due to having a large population of sexually frustrated people (both men AND women) who were raised to believe that sexual activity or just being sexy is a dirty and shameful act, and a society where both men and women have been led to believe that women have to either be complete prudes or totally promiscuous.
"Dick is an ex-quarterback with a madonna-whore complex. Jane is an equally confused prude who needs to drink a quart of whisky to release her sexual inhibitions guiltlessly. They were made for each other."

I think I have a virgin/whore complex about myself! One part of me wants to be a raging slut while the other strives to be a long-suffering masochistic saint. I feel like a lot of my other sexually liberated, smart and dynamic female friends struggle with the same dilemma. What to do, what to do?!