Immaturity

I was dating an interesting, smart and sexy music producer casually for the past month and a half. Besides the obvious flaw of being emotionally unavailable (that's how I like all my men, I guess)due to a recent separation from his wife of 13 years, he was a bit different from my 'normal' type. First of all he had money and a good job, secondly he was white and to top it off he was older than me - in his 40s. My dating preferences as of the last couple years tend to run towards young, brown, marginally employed and foreign!
Even though I had little expectation of anything serious happening with this guy, I felt that he was mature, financially stable and educated - a step in the right direction, at least. We had lots of interesting conversations, made out in his art studio, he showed me a video of his son's band, I met his dog and his favorite bartender, he told me stories about his grandparents during W.W.II and how they stayed in touch even though they were in separate concentration camps, we discussed religion, politics and music. He was a cool guy and I was enjoying getting to know him. Well, turns out he's pretty much similar to the rest. Three days after having sex with him for the first time on the (4th or 5th date)I received this text message:

"Violeta, we talked a lot about doing the right thing and being a good person. I want to do that, and be up front that I'm not ready to keep dating. I think you're so sweet but my situation isn't going to make for anything very secure. I'm here now if you want to talk on the phone, or we could get together for coffee or a beer again. I hope you understand. Hugs, J."

Just when you thought you were dating a 46 year old man and things might be different - he dumps you by text message after sleeping with you! Ahhhhhh...is there no justice in this world??!!! Technology has absolved us of all propriety.